It's my birthday, it's my graduation date, it's my engagement day, it's the day when I performed the best on stage, it's valentine's day, it's the day when I started my job, it's the day when I switched to a second job ;) and the list can go on.
These days are the markers in one's life which are of special importance. Some moments and some special days take super significance over any other routine day. Quite normal.. right?
Psychologically what this means! - We attach a meaning to any day and then become happy about it. But now there is nothing in this world which is not in pair - i.e. - there exists something opposite as well. The way we have happy and good days to remember, we might also have some sad days in life e.g. it's the day when I failed in my exam, it's the day when my brother went out of town, it's the day when my sister got married and left me, it's the day when I lost my dear one's company, it's the day when my favorite actor/singer died.. and so on..
Analytically, any event attached to a day is just part of your memory or your thought. But emotional effect of it, is somehow not really detachable. If it's a birthday, there is an expectation of getting some surprize or some gift or some special wish/phone call or special food for that day Or simply new clothes. Expectation is an emotinal reaction of the body.
And if it's a day when you lost something/someone, you tend to remain unhappy due to the psychological marker in your mind. Something has happened, that moment is gone away now and it's not gonna be changed. So whatever is not there today, was not there yesterday, so will not be tomorrow too. BUT that marker/thought still makes you sad, it still adds to your sorrow and makes you completely unhappy.
The markers in life have gotten a meaning by us already. How can we detach that psyche ? How we can overcome the past events (be it happy or sad) AND remain in the present moment?
My job is not to identify only problems but a solution to it too :)
But this time, no great solution yet!
~KrupA
9 comments:
Loved this blog... M gonna mention about this on mine... with ur kind permission ofc mam ;)
Its a lovely blog...but I think we can have a solution for this problem.
Just live the ife as it comes n don't take care of so many dates which u need to remember...y 2 remember something which hurt u...but do take care of ur friends b'days otherwise they r gonna kill u n then u won't be there to worry bout all these things ;)
Living just in the present is an utopic persuit. take away my memories(good or bad) and what is left of me? Nothing....
we see people all around us who have learnt from their failures and become successful...what would have happened if they wud have started living just in the present? would they have tried to be successful?
and what happens to the succeses which i win today? if i forget them tomorow...where do i gain my faith and confidence from??
y do we fight against things which we seem not to be in control of? i guess that is what we humans are all about..
it was good reading Krupa...read ur blog for the first time
www.quasiutopic.wordpress.com thats my blog.. be my guest sometime :)
Neha - hey thanks dear.
Nitin - Thanks for the comment. :) I'll try to remember friends' birthdays and if I can not then I will put mobile reminders ;)
Well, that's precisely i mean - Live in the present moment.
Hey quasiutopic,
I think you are emotion-driven person. "Take away my memories and I am left with nothing" - thought says it all. Let not emotion drive you but 'you' control them. :) (Try it!! Trust me..It takes strength to do so)
By the way, I never said one should not learn from experiences, rather MUST learn from it and not 'repeat' any mistake.
Nor I say that one should not have forevision, rather must dream and try to be focused.
I don't know how you took a very different meaning from markers of life.
Anyway.. you have come first time to my blog, don't want to make it last time :D :)
Thanks for dropping by.
wow!! we definitly were not on d same page Krupa :) happens sometimes... i guess its one of those things which you remember and think "How did THAT happen?"
as for me being emotion-driven, well.. i cud have been in that frame while i was writin that piece.... so u were right Psychologist :)
This wont be my last visit to ur blog either, take care :)
www.quasiutopic.wordpress.com
Interesting! :)
:) No comments... ;) (I AM a good psychologist!! :P)
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