Changes when in Love ~

Almost everyone says "If someone tries to change you in love, do not go with that person, Because LOVE can not grow on basis of change or can not grow conditionally".
I do not disagree with this statement. But I do have another perspective about entire thing.

One thing I believe is - "Change is only Constant". Everyone keeps going through certain changes in life. From my personal experience I can say that What I was before few months, I am not the same today. Anyway..

So, I was talking about changing yourself for someone when you are in love. Let's take examples.
(When you fall in love ~)
When you love someone who smokes cigar and you know that smoking is a bad habit and is injurious to someone's health, but you already love that person, so smoking might not be the factor that your love changes for that person. Now, you want that person to change his habit, a change for good.

While you are reading this, I hear you saying - this example is not really a good example to support the argument. Hmm.. I know, sometimes, I am really bad at explanation :).

Let me try another one -
(When you started walking in love~)
Some people have a general attitude of not liking too much of social communications and rather they prefer staying little aloof or stay in smaller group and not merge with society in general. Now, imagine that your partner is one of such people, but on the other hand you like to talk with as many people as you can and make new relations and maintain them. How would you handle such situation? At least one of you WILL have to adjust Or both of you might have to come forward one step.
Is not such change OR such Compromise a support factor for a good loving relationship?

(When you walked a bit in love ~)
Ok let me take a situation when you don't want to change and you don't want to compromise also. Take a case when you are a girl and your partner doesn't like you in western clothes - i.e. Jeans, T-shirts, shirts, skirts etc. and would love to see you in local attire -i.e. in case of India, Indian dress. In this case, You will never want to change the way you look by changing the attire just because your partner doesn't like it that way. When your partner fell in love with you, you were not wearing only Indian dress and now he wants you to change. Why? (This is just one example of its kind. But there will be many such cases)

Did you see the root cause in above case? It's the changing expectation. And you may feel that the expectation should not change and circumstances should not demand the changes if you are in love.

But somehow I want to incline towards the fact that expectations DO change. We have to deal with it. We can not escape! And trust me unless you/your partner compromise a bit in anything, you may not be able to stand the changing expectations!

In summary, I think I tried to touch two cases here -

• Changing yourself
• Changing Expectations

I am not really sure If I made my point clear, but I am for both the things in life - 'Changing myself' and also 'deal with changing expectations'. Of course the magnitude of the change is a subjective term here, which I can not generalize! :)

[I read my post after publishing, just to make sure that it makes sense and there are no spell mistakes, then I found something funny :) and that is - 'Last sentence was kinda disclaimer', wasn't it? ;) ) :) read that again ]