I write about Love and I am always in favor of any relationship which has a base of love and hence some people asked me, recently, to define Love. I was wondering how would I define it. I am still not sure how should I define it.
However, I thought let me start putting together all the ideas of Love that can come to my mind. This post can be one of those posts which will talk about Love. So if you don't feel like reading about Love, this post is not for you ;-) :-)
There are numerous forms of Love and even more forms of expressing that Love. Love for a partner is one of those. While I am thinking of definition of Love, I thought let me use different way to write down the thoughts here.
'Think' (Don't assume or believe :-)) of me as a person seeking a 'he' partner where I describe here what would I love him for ~
I would love him:
1) For the
Friend in him
- The friend who, at times, will scold me when I go wrong or negative in life.
- The friend who, at times, can become the source of motivation in anything I do.
- The one, who will laugh with me when we are doing any fun activity
- Be it watching some photographs
- Be it watching a movie together
- Be it sitting in the balcony and gossiping (don't think that gossip is the word only for women, mind you, it is a Generic word)
- Be it any stupid joke that we crack on anything or anyone
- The one whose eyes will have the expression of pride when he finds me achieving something
- Be it Project success
- Be it a degree certification
- Be it a dance or any talent competition in a community meeting or any social function
- The one who will try to accept me for what I am BUT always there to help me change myself for the good. (I am always open for the change, I don't believe that one shouldn't change for anyone)
2) For the father in him - No, I am not saying father of my kid, instead 'my' father. When, few of the times, if I am upset about something, he will know it and come and 'discuss' with me with his fatherly advice about the matter.
3) For the mother in him - When I am sick or not keeping well, he will shower the motherly care on me. When he comes to me with his capability to nurture me in a way that helps me grow in all aspects of life, all responsibilities.
4) For the Protector in him - Even though when he knows that I can manage my safety, he tries to express his love and care by taking care of my safety. (Mind here, he should not get clingy about it though. )
5) For the kid in him - who becomes crazy when he sees someone playing a video game. When he puts his towel anywhere after shower, when he denies to get up early and needs the motherly love/motherly spanking ;) to wake him up.
6) For the man in him -
- Who satisfies me for my physical needs
- Who has passion when he's making love to me
- Who has enthusiasm in making our relationship grow better each day, just like, I may have.
- Who can make my day, for example, by just kissing on my forehead and say the simple words "I Love You" Or "Take care" with the pure emotion in his eyes. (I am not asking this should be a routine, but the feeling should be strong one whenever he expresses it)
7) For the self-confidence that he carries with him but still carries the need of my support which can make him feel complete & similarly which I can look up to him for.
8) For the support that he gives me when I am emotionally down. For the empathy that he carries in his heart for people.
9) For the spirit of enjoying the life to the fullest with each moment in hand.
10) For the respect that he would give me for my way of loving people, our parents, our family.
How Perfect does this sound! As if I am in a dream world and thinking that one can get all these in one person. Of course, it is also understood that a person can not be in all/many roles at a time but he can be in at least one of the roles at one time.
Trust me, we all are capable to be perfect for each other with the sense of mature-adjustments in us. If we understand each others' needs, we can change our selves to make each other happy.
Life is not all about 'me' and what "I" need, rather it is about Love that we all need and about the Love that we all shower.I wrote about 'he' partner but could you not relate to what your partner should be like?
It is not certain, that I get such a partner or you get such a partner or we get to meet the perfect partner. But have faith and be sure that you understand that things happen for a reason so you better learn to accept your life and grow in
Love.
~kRUPa